Thursday, April 05, 2007

Self worth is not based on how much money you make,
neither is it’s based on how big a house you are staying in,
nor how many designers’ stuff you are carrying.
It is neither based on your position in a company,
nor how well you score academically,
nor what you have achieved academically.

Self worth has to be intrinsic.
How you view yourself and
not how others view you.
Self worth is about knowing who you really are.
Your value as a person.
Your purpose in life.
Your place in the world.
Your strength and weaknesses.
Your independence and ability to stand on your own feet.

When you have high self-worth,
you tend to be confident,
you tend to be happy,
you tend to be motivated,
you tend to be sure.
you are less fearful of failure,
you are able to overcome obstacles and setbacks.
It is the foundation of your ability to believe in yourself.
It is about you.
It is not what others approve of you.

When you have low self worth,
you tend to be lack of confident,
you tend to give rise to depression,
you tend to be unsatisfied,
you tend to be insecure,
you are more fearful of failure,
you are more likely to stumble at every seemingly impossible challenge.
There is no foundation of your ability to believe in yourself.
It is not about you.
It is more of doing what others approve of you.

Having good self worth means that
you know yourself enough
to not need the approval of others.
You don't need to be rich to get recognition.
You don't need to carry Gucci bags to feel good.
You don't need to be thin to feel beautiful.
You just feel good for who you are
that you don't need to stay in a private estate,
so that you can say you can afford it so you are rich.
It doesn't matter.
How much worth in assets you have
doesn't determine your value.
It's how much worth in your self
that determines.
When you stay in a private estate in order to feel rich,
it could mean that you are needing it too much,
that you will do anything to stay in it,
because without it,
you feel that you are poor
and others will look down on you.

It is always good to receive approval and recognition from others,
but not dependent on it.
You have to feel good and feel whole as individual.
With good self worth,
you have a realistic appraisal of your capacities,
you have deserved respect from others.

1 comment:

Wei said...

Well said, great post, you've said it all, in a nutshell!

When we can say, it's such a great pity but it's over; when we know there are still other things to live for; when we are comfortable being alone doing nothing; when we are able to give ourselves a hug when we need one and there's no one around to do it.

*Big Huggies for Princess B*